(roommates: all a product of parenting)
There are three main styles of parenting; Authoritarian, Permissive, and Authoritative.
Authoritarian:
-This parenting style is all based on what the parent wants, the parents want perfect obedience from their children and are willing to go to extreme lengths to get it.
-The children obey out of fear more than anything
-The parents love their children but there is little if any two way communication
-The children DO NOT fail because their parents will not allow it, parents may step in and do things for their children if it looks like failure is a possible outcome
-Children from these homes either rebel as soon as they leave the house or they fail at life because they simply have learned no skills of life survival
Permissive:
-This parenting style is almost the opposite of the first, except for the fact that it is also self serving towards the parents
-The parents love their children but they want their friendship and set no boundaries or limits for them
-Children in this situation try everything and anything to get boundaries set, they will go to endless efforts, so they seem out of control
-There is a lot of communication and warmth, kids learn about life through personal experiences
Authoritative: (Democratic)
-This is the ideal style of parenting
-There is a lot of love and warmth, a lot of communication, and a lot of rules and boundaries for the children
-Parents do things to benefit their kids and they involve them in decisions
-Children have responsibilities and are a contributor to the family
-They are prepared and confident to go out into the world
Most parents are a combination of parenting styles, the most beneficial is obviously the Authoritative one, but it can also be the most difficult to keep up. Parents need to be consciously involved in their parenting in order to maintain a solid style.
Children need attention and they know how to get it.
-parents need to acknowledge good behaviors rather than always punishing bad behaviors
--the behavior that gets noticed will be the one they tend to keep
It is the parents responsibility to prepare their children for the world
-parents teach their children how to think and act in different situations
--at home is where they should learn Courage, Responsibility, Respect, and Cooperation
RESPECT IS A TWO WAY ROAD
-a child will not give respect to a parent if the parent does not respect the child-simply because they have not been taught how to give respect.
Authoritative: (Democratic)
-This is the ideal style of parenting
-There is a lot of love and warmth, a lot of communication, and a lot of rules and boundaries for the children
-Parents do things to benefit their kids and they involve them in decisions
-Children have responsibilities and are a contributor to the family
-They are prepared and confident to go out into the world
Most parents are a combination of parenting styles, the most beneficial is obviously the Authoritative one, but it can also be the most difficult to keep up. Parents need to be consciously involved in their parenting in order to maintain a solid style.
Children need attention and they know how to get it.
-parents need to acknowledge good behaviors rather than always punishing bad behaviors
--the behavior that gets noticed will be the one they tend to keep
It is the parents responsibility to prepare their children for the world
-parents teach their children how to think and act in different situations
--at home is where they should learn Courage, Responsibility, Respect, and Cooperation
RESPECT IS A TWO WAY ROAD
-a child will not give respect to a parent if the parent does not respect the child-simply because they have not been taught how to give respect.
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