The Family Under Stress

(siblings)

Everyone reacts to stress differently just like everyone reacts to dangerous situations differently. Some people run some people fight and some people freeze. Having this knowledge of different reactions can help us to understand our loved ones actions and feelings in hard times. 

It is important for families to come out of crisis stronger than they were before and not more distant and weak as a family unit. There is a formula for family crisis that explains why some families may not make it as easily as others. 

A-actual event + B-both resources and how they are used + C-cognition (thought process/attitude) 

= X the experience

I really love this formula because it shows that even though we may not have control of the event or what resources we have, we do have control over how we use our resources and how we think of our situations. This means that there is never a reason for failure, if we fail it is because we didn't try hard enough as a family.

The word crisis in Chinese characters is made up of danger and opportunity. This is so true and so cool to think about, we have the power to make our lives and families happy and loving no matter what we are going through.

It is important to be close with our families through the easy times so that through any challenges we have it will only bring us closer together.